If you’ve ever wondered why you settle, sabotage, or shut down.. this episode tells you the truth.

Today on Almost Adulting, Violetta is joined by Jay Shetty - New York Times best-selling author, host of On Purpose, former monk, and one of the most influential voices in self-improvement, emotional healing, and modern spirituality.

In this powerful conversation, Jay and Violetta dive into:

• the limits we place on ourselves (and each other)
• fear as an unformed boundary
• why timelines sabotage our growth
• the real meaning of love (beyond romance)
• how to build connection through vulnerability
• and how to rewrite the beliefs holding you back

If you’re craving clarity, emotional growth, deeper love, or a fresh start, this is an episode worth revisiting. Some conversations deserve a second life. and don't forget to leave me a 5 star review on the apple podcast app when you're done listening!!!!

WHAT TO LISTEN FOR:

• 00:00 Intro

• 02:15 The journey that took 10 years

• 05:08 Deadlines vs. destiny

• 06:13 Worst advice Jay ever received

• 07:52 “We project our limits onto other people.”

• 10:46 The three cancers of the mind

• 12:45 How to change your feelings

• 16:23 Best advice Jay ever received

• 21:36 Why beginners should move fast

• 28:19 The two lies we tell ourselves

• 33:35 What unforgiveness does to you

• 36:13 Different forms of love

• 38:46 Is unconditional love real?

• 41:26 Loving as a skill

• 46:16 Fear as an unformed boundary

• 50:05 The power of being alone

• 53:08 Win or lose together

• 58:52 What it really takes to make love work

• 01:03:41 The 8 Rules of Love

• 01:06:19 The myth of perfection

• 01:08:35 Connect with the people who want you

AND THAT IS ALL FOR 2025!!! WE WILL BE BACK IN 2026!! <3

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