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Is Being A Pick Me Or Performative Male Problematic?

Is Being A Pick Me Or Performative Male Problematic?

Update: 2025-10-13
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Ever been called a ‘pick me’? It’s been a cultural buzzword for years to describe women who seek male validation by putting down other women - but have we taken the term too far? We find out what it actually means to be a ‘pick me’, why it’s a problematic label to hand out without critical thought, and explore whether the ‘performative male’ is the guy version that needs just as much scrutiny.

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Pick-me girl backlash exposes a bigger issue: https://www.who.com.au/lifestyle/sex-relationships/pick-me-girl/

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Is Being A Pick Me Or Performative Male Problematic?

Is Being A Pick Me Or Performative Male Problematic?

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