Maybe you've experienced that great date only to be confused when it didn't result in a kiss goodnight – or anything more. Are they just not that into you....or could it be something else? We’re discussing the different ways we all experience desire as we chat with Mike about being a hetero man who leans more on the submissive spectrum. We discuss the differences between responsive and spontaneous desire, how gender roles perpetuate stereotypes, and why we need to better understand our partners instead of making assumptions.

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