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Author: Barbara Annis and Paul Colligan

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After decades of ineffective quotas, a revolutionary approach to breaking through the glass ceiling for women has come into focus—one shaped by a greater understanding of our gender differences instead of trying to ignore them.

Today, Gender Intelligence is improving communication between men and women in organizations around the globe. It’s resulting in superior innovative thinking, more effective problem solving and decision-making, greater team productivity, and more enduring customer relationships.
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Barbara Annis and host Paul Colligan kick off this episode with a story about Barbara’s husband, also named Paul, who had a negative experience during an Unconscious Bias training session. Barbara explains that Unconscious Bias does not work, and companies need to stop delivering that kind of training. She says it has a reverse effect on people because: It’s a band-aid approach that has no correlation to learning; It lowers morale; It is a waste of money for companies because there’s no return on investment.   Barbara insists that even the term has negative connotations. The first word, unconscious, is about helplessness, while the second word, bias, evokes blame. She described the work she did with a company where they removed the term Unconscious Bias and replaced it with Blind Spots. It is non-blame and focuses on a-ha moments of discovery, and new insights.   Paul and Barbara discussed the experience that people have in a Gender Intelligence training session where the focus is on Blind Spots. Barbara says that once they realize it’s not about blame, but about building understanding, everything changes. There’s engagement from the start, and it’s relevant to their lives, both professionally and personally. Barbara says it takes the divisiveness out of the conversation.   Barbara described a situation where a large financial services firm faced the largest gender discrimination lawsuit in the history of Wall Street. She says the legal action came on the heels of Unconscious Bias training in the firm, prompting the company to remove UB training from any mention in its culture.   Harvard business review article “Why Diversity Programs Fail”: https://hbr.org/2016/07/why-diversity-programs-fail   Paul reflected on the benefits of a Gender Intelligent conversation around hardwired differences between men and women, and the value each gender brings to the table. He says it’s about answering the questions, “what can we learn about each other, how can we perform better with each other, and what does each style bring to the game that gives us an advantage?   Barbara referred to a quote from Dr. Fernando Flores PhD, a linguistic professor at Berkeley. He said “You can stall or initiate anything through how you use language.” Barbara says it reflects the importance of using language that engages an authentic conversation. It can make it a transformational experience for men and women.   Find the Book “Be Gender Intelligent,” by Barbara Annis and Dr. Keith Merron: https://www.amazon.com/Gender-Intelligence-Breakthrough-Strategies-Increasing/dp/0062307436     Find Barbara’s first book, “Same Words Different Language” here: https://www.amazon.com/Same-Words-Different-Language-Intelligence/dp/0134513274     Are you interested in becoming a Be Gender Intelligent Ambassador? Get in touch with Barbara’s team at tdrezet@genderintelligence.com, to learn more about the advantages of becoming a Gender Intelligent leader within your organization through our digital learning programs for men and women.
On this episode, Barbara Annis and host Paul Colligan discuss the some of the biggest challenges facing women in leadership positions. The pitfalls, identified through a survey of 2,000 women leaders, were based on two simple questions. What pitfalls they worked to avoid in their careers, and what pitfalls they may have fallen into.  7 Common Themes Were Identified Barbara says the results showed that, no matter where these women leaders lived, or what their career focus was, the same themes just kept popping up, again and again.  Take the free Introductory Program here: courses.genderintelligence.com/courses/introduction-to-e-learning Sign up for the full 7 Pitfalls program here: courses.genderintelligence.com/courses/the-7-pitfalls-for-women-leaders  Barbara and Paul discussed the themes and how they impact women in leadership positions. The top 7 pitfalls are: Making Bold Requests Self-Promotion Being Hard On Themselves The Loyalty Trap Assigned to Grunt Work Networking Negotiations Barbara shared a story about a group of male and female executives were all in the running for the CEO role at a company in Silicon Valley. She described a key gender difference that led to one of the male executives landing the position, in sharp contrast with the approach of his female counterparts. Barbara also reflected on the differences between men and women in terms of networking. Barbara says she’s convinced it all comes down to being strategic in one’s approach. Paul suggested that organizations could benefit by making sure male employees also understand these pitfalls for women. He believes this mutual insight into gender differences would allow men and women to worth together to overcome each of their pitfalls, allowing them to build on each other’s strengths. Barbara agreed and describing how some of her corporate clients came to that same conclusion. She believes this kind of acknowledgement and understanding of gender differences and the pitfalls of both men and women should begin in high school or earlier. Barbara told the story of a young female engineer who reached out to her after the engineer had hired a highly successful male career coach, only to discover that he constantly made her cry. In his mind, his confrontation style would motivate her, but instead it made her feel less confident. The female engineer later discovered that she was the first women he had ever coached. Barbara convinced her to fire the coach, and she recommended finding a new one who ‘had her back,’ and used a more positive approach in coaching. Next Week’s Topic: Giving and Receiving Feedback with Gender Intelligence
Marcella Allison is an entrepreneur and top direct advertising copywriter. She founded the (not so secret) Order of the Titanides, a community to empower women freelancers and solopreneurs in the advertising and direct response industries. On this podcast, Marcella explains to Barbara that she knew it was time to take action on behalf of women in her industry when she began witnessing the effects of the pandemic on their businesses. She says it is essential that women in leadership positions make an effort to support others at this time, in an effort to prevent losing an entire generation of women entrepreneurs. Marcella is convinced we’re at a breaking point.  Barbara reflected on how she is also finding through surveys that women are affected deeply in terms of morale, stress and overwork. She’s convinced that women at all levels – in the workplace and in the home – are working harder than they ever had.  Marcella referred to a series of articles the New York Times ran on the impact of the pandemic on women. Find some of the articles here:  Pandemic Will ‘Take Our Women 10 Years Back’ in the Workplace: www.nytimes.com/2020/09/26/world/covid-women-childcare-equality.html Could the Pandemic Prompt an ‘Epidemic of Loss’ of Women in the Sciences? www.nytimes.com/2021/04/13/health/women-stem-pandemic.html Why is this happening? Marcella says it’s because women have always carried much of the burden at home, and that has become an exponentially larger challenge during this pandemic. She says it’s hard to imagine how women who are copywriters and creatives are managing to work from home, with young children who may be homeschooling and without access to daycare. Marcella described a recent survey that showed the pandemic has added as many as 30 hours of extra work for the average family in terms of education and extra tasks, and women are carrying 70% of that. See the Boston Consulting Group study Marcella referred to here: www.bcg.com/en-ca/publications/2020/helping-working-parents-ease-the-burden-of-covid-19 Barbara reflected on the neuroscience of gender differences, and how that plays out in this situation. She says many CEOs have told her they recognize the extra burden placed on women right now, but they don’t know what to do about it. Marcella also reflected on another disconcerting study by Facebook’s Sheryl Sandberg and McKinsey & Company, which suggested that 1 in 4 women are thinking about downgrading their role in the workplace. Read the ‘Women in the Workplace 2020’ report here: womenintheworkplace.com Marcella says there’s no question this is also turning back the clock in terms of pay equity. She points to a recent study by the World Economic Forum showing that because of the pandemic, the gender pay gap won’t be closed for another 135 years.  Equal Gender Pay Set Back a Generation by Pandemic, WEF Says: www.bloomberg.com/news/articles/2021-03-31/equal-gender-pay-set-back-a-generation-by-pandemic-wef-says Barbara explained the importance of self-care for women. She says employers should be focused on creating work-life harmony in the workplace vs. work-life balance, which is really a myth. Marcella described a session the Titanides held recently with Dr. Peter Pearson, founder of the Couples Institute. He worked with the women to help make them better negotiators for themselves in relation to household tasks. Dr. Pearson also coached the women through a series of conversations to have with their partner’s and children. Find a link to the Couples Institute here: couplesinstitute.com Paul and Barbara reflected on the challenges in many workplaces during the Covid-19 pandemic. Barbara says the key is to embed Gender Intelligence in everything a company does. She says it’s incredibly validating for women and incredibly freeing for men to learn about and apply the knowledge gained from understanding the science of gender differences. Barbara says it really is about everyone coming together to solve the problem. Paul suggested that men can be proactive by asking their partners at home or in the workplace if there are any ‘unspoken requests,’ relating to ways they can contribute. Barbara praised the idea saying it addresses an important assumption that women often make – that because they notice things, men should notice them too. Barbara says women also have to exercise the muscle of “letting go.” ==== Read Marcella Allison’s professional profile here: marcellaallison.com/ Learn about the Titanides here: titanides.com/
Barbara Annis begins the program by sharing some of the fundamental differences between men and women when it comes to conflict. She says the sexes really do react to conflict differently. Women tend to internalize conflicts and ruminate about it. Men tend to externalize it. They will often make a decision to either resolve it or move on, which as Barbara explains, links to the fight or flight response. What is S.A.R.A.? Shock, Anger, Rejection, Acceptance Barbara describes SARA as the path that men and women take as they go through situations of conflict. Her advice is not to get stuck in Shock, Anger or Rejections, but to commit to a period of ‘short-term’ suffering where you truly ‘feel’ those moments, but have a genuine intention to get to Acceptance. While men tend to get stuck in being angry and women often get stuck in rejection, Barbara believes we are ineffective in communicators when we are in either state. Blame-Frame and Outcome-Frame These are the two frames of reference that Barbara refers to in her books and workshops. She says blame is really about creating a win-lose. I’m right and you’re wrong. On the other hand, Outcome Frame is really about asking ‘what’s ’the win-win here?’ How can we get to understanding? Using Triangulation Barbara’s described the theory of ‘triangulation’ where people in the workplace choose to complain to others rather than taking on conflict in a direct way with an individual. Barbara explains why ‘triangulated behavior’ only complicates things, but it’s a pattern people fall into. She believes that rather than involving other people, it’s better to go directly to the individual you are having a conflict with to resolve it. The key is having ‘zero commitment’ to triangulation. What Can We Do About It? A Gender Intelligence Worksheet: The next time you’re in a conflict situation, take a few moments to review and apply each of these 6 ways to reach a positive resolution. Ten Techniques for Resolving Conflict: Regardless of gender, these techniques will help you when you find yourself in a conflict with a colleague: 1. Stay calm. One big thing that can intensify conflict is anger. To keep the conflict from escalating, take a mental step back and remain calm. Chances are if you can remain calm, those around you will calm down as well. 2. Listen to understand. Once the anger sets in, we tend to stop listening to understand and we start listening to argue back. It will be difficult, but you need to practice your active listening skills and listen to understand. 3. Own what is yours. Are you part of the problem? Take ownership of your mistakes and apologize for them. This will usually surprise people—in a good way—and make them more open to resolving the conflict. 4. Leave a little room for doubt. Rather than insisting that you are right and the other party is wrong, leave a little room for doubt. Take the opportunity to check your sources and confirm what you know. While you still may be right, you are gathering more information. 5. Use an “I” message. “I” messages describe the experience from your point of view without blaming the other party. Using an “I” message is a way to express your needs, expectations, and problems to your listener in a non-‐confrontational way. Some examples: •I expect...•I understood you to say...•It was my understanding that...•I guess I misheard. Please...•I would appreciate it if...•I need... 6. Attack the problem, not the person. If you want your point to be heard, depersonalize your comments and talk only to the issue. Rather than accusing the other party, frame your statements towards finding a solution. For example, instead of “You’re always getting that wrong,” frame the statement as “Let’s look at why this keeps happening.” 7. Avoid finger pointing. In conflict resolution, assigning blame is only helpful in one situation—if you assign it to yourself. When trying to resolve a conflict, figuring out whose fault something is does nothing to solve the problem. Instead, focus on problem solving, not finger pointing. 8. Pick your battles. Do you need to be right, or do you need to resolve the conflict? It’s human nature to want to be right. Unfortunately, this gets in the way of conflict resolution. Right or wrong, if the issue means a lot less to you than it does the other party, it’s best to concede. 9. Focus on now. Stay out of the past — it doesn’t belong in conflict resolution. Bringing up old arguments or problems will do nothing to help solve the existing conflict. Instead of focusing on what went wrong, or who didn’t do what (both in the past), shift the focus to finding a solution. 10. Be willing to let it go. Don’t hold on to past conflict. This only gets in the way of your ability to resolve conflict in the future.
After a busy life raising a family and building a career in sales at Sony, Barbara Annis turned her interest in gender differences into a lifelong mission to bring Gender Intelligence into the workplace. In today’s episode, Barbara shares the story of her journey with Paul, and explains why there’s so much more to accomplish. One of the biggest ‘a-ha’ moments for Barbara was when she realized she wasn’t being fully authentic in her life. She describes how her persona at work, where she took on ‘alpha’ male behaviors to fit in and compete with her male colleagues, clashed with who she really was. Paul shared how when he first met Barbara, he instantly understood what she meant using the term “Gender Intelligence.” He says the title of Barbara’s first book, “Same Words, Different Language,” also rang true to him. Barbara described the process of writing, then editing her first book. She says it was well received, and a common reaction from people was “why didn’t I know this 20 years ago?” She says it was always her goal to create balanced learning for both men and women, without blame. She says men find it very freeing, and women find it incredibly validating. Find Barbara’s first book “Same Words, Different Language” here: https://www.amazon.ca/Same-Words-Different-Language-Intelligence/dp/0134513274  Barbara and Paul discussed some of the books Barbara co-authored. She described how her work with author Michael Gurian led to their partnership to write “Leadership and the Sexes. Find “Leadership and the Sexes” by Barbara Annis and Michael Gurian here: https://www.amazon.ca/Leadership-Sexes-Science-Business-2008-08-25/dp/B01FKWTYO0/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=annis+gurian&qid=1618508935&s=books&sr=1-1  Paul and Barbara also discussed Barbara’s book with John Gray entitled “Work With Me,” and how the two authors collaborated on ways to be authentically Gender Intelligent at home and at work. Find “Work With Me” by Barbara Annis and John Gray here: https://www.amazon.ca/Work-Me-Intelligence-Succeed-Barbara/dp/B00QAU26YC/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=barbara+annis+john+gray&qid=1618509058&s=books&sr=1-2  Today, Barbara describes her life as being much different than it was before the Covid-19 pandemic. Due to the success of her books and consulting work, Barbara spent many years ‘living out of a suitcase,’ and traveling from one keynote address to another. Today she does most of her work virtually. She says she’s finally convinced that workshops can be delivered virtually, and it’s an extremely useful platform for learning. That’s a big advantage for companies that wanted her to be able to scale her corporate learning programs globally. Barbara says the pandemic hasn’t changed her mission to bring the value of Gender Intelligence to thousands of organizations. She says a key to that is her “Be Gender Intelligent” online learning platform. It’s a 15-hour program where learners can earn their Gender Intelligence Ambassador certification. To learn more about the “Be Gender Intelligent” learning platform here: https://www.genderintelligence.com/digital-learning/ 
"Over the last 40 years, studies have shown that female officers are less authoritarian in their approach to policing, less reliant on physical force and are more effective communicators. Most importantly, female officers are better at defusing potentially violent confrontations before those encounters turn deadly." Hiring & Retaining More Women: The Advantages to Law Enforcement Agencies Kimberly A. Lonsway Link to study: https://eric.ed.gov/?id=ED473183  In this podcast, Barbara explains that she first began to consider the connection between Gender Intelligence and safety in the early 90s when some of her clients shared stories with her about how teams with women tended to outscore all-male teams on the implementation of safety practices in the workplace. Since then, many research studies have confirmed it. Barbara says that would reflect the brain differences between the genders. Because women think more contextually, they tend to be more detail oriented, and also tend to employ consequential thinking to a higher degree. In contrast men tend to be more transactional in their thinking and focused on accomplishing the task at hand. Barbara and Paul reflect on the research that demonstrates the benefits of having women in policing. Barbara explains the differences in the Amygdala, and how testosterone affects men and women differently. She shared the story of Vale, the global mining company that pivoted to embrace all forms of diversity including gender, after a tragedy in Brazil. Additional Material: Link to Barbara’s interview with Vale’s Chief Operating Officer, Dino Otranto: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8GXRAe2qFJA  Gender Disparities in Injury Mortality: Consistent, Persistent and Larger Than You’d Think https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3222499/  How Covid-19 is Changing Women’s Lives https://www.bbc.com/worklife/article/20200630-how-covid-19-is-changing-womens-lives  A Simple Solution to Policing Problems: Women! Mindy E. Bergman, Jessica M. Walker, Vanessa A. Jean, Texas A&M University https://www.icos.umich.edu/sites/default/files/lecturereadinglists/bergman_walker_jean%20(2016)%20IOP%20women%20policing.pdf 
We know that today, women influence 80% of purchases. They often manage the day-to-day expenses of the family but aren’t generally managing the family wealth or investments. Barbara Annis interviews Jo Ousterhout, a financial coach who has been described as a champion of women’s political and economic leadership. Ousterhout acknowledged the latest data that show women will control 60 to 70% of the world’s wealth by 2030. She says we shouldn’t be all that surprised by the number considering that in many marriages, the husband is older, and men don’t live as long as women generally. Watch the full interview with Jo Ousterhout here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nT6lXaBiCNw  Barbara reflected on research showing that 72% of women fire their financial advisor within a year of their spouse passing away. She discusses how gender differences are at the core of that. She says it’s important to hire a Gender Intelligent financial advisor. That’s someone who recognizes that women often bring a different approach and perspective in the way they interact with a financial advisor. Paul and Barbara discuss what approach to take in dealing with a financial advisor who is not Gender Intelligent in their approach to male and female clients. Barbara recommends intervening in a non-blame way. She describes a recent situation with her husband where he was able to do this effectively. Barbara discussed the adage “be interested, not interesting.” She says the solution to creating a more Gender Intelligent experience for women customers isn’t to replace male salespeople or financial advisors with women, but rather to train staff of both genders to be more Gender Intelligent. Barbara and Paul discuss the neuroscience underlying the way in which men and women think and view the world. Barbara explains male convergent thinking and female divergent thinking, and how they are both important, and a real strength, especially when combined. Paul reflected on his experience at the Gender Intelligent Deep Dive, a 3-day workshop and learning event Barbara holds annually. He says that for he and his wife, one of his biggest ‘take-homes’ was that women aren’t generally great negotiators for themselves, but they are often incredibly good at negotiating for others. Paul and Barbara ended the discussion with some thoughts on Barbara’s favorite quote by Lily Tomlin. “I always wanted to be somebody, but now I realize I should have been more specific” To learn about Barbara’s innovative microlearning program called “Learning Nudges”, visit the website here: www.learningnudges.com 
The Gender Intelligence community is growing. Early adopters in finance and technology are now being joined by manufacturing and mining companies, as they too recognize the benefits of building inclusive cultures through an understanding of the value of gender differences. On today’s show, Barbara and Paul discuss the progress of Vale, one of the world’s largest mining companies, with more than 76,000 employees at operations in 30 countries. The firm, founded in Brazil in 1942, has declared that its mission is to transform natural resources into prosperity and sustainable development. Part of that is a recognition that diversity is at the core of its people and the people it serves. Barbara Annis describes the challenges that Vale faced, and the catalyst that moves the company to further define and declare its goals around building a diverse, and more gender-balanced workforce. Gender Intelligence can benefit companies in several ways: “difference thinking” better leadership improved communications greater safety help individuals to feel valued empower women in the workplace Recommended Reading: For individuals interested in learning the concepts and principles of Gender Intelligence, read Barbara’s book, “Same Words, Different Language.” - https://amzn.to/38M9SHY For organizations and teams interesting in implementing Gender Intelligence within your company, read Barbara’s book, “Gender Intelligence.” - https://amzn.to/2OH3ieR  Interview with Dino Otranto, COO, Vale Base Metals As part of an interview series for International Women’s Day, Barbara spoke with Dino Otranto, Chief Operating Officer, Vale Base Metals. Barbara described his authentic commitment to Gender Intelligence and inclusion, and how it connects to Vale’s mission. See the full interview with Dino Otranto here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8GXRAe2qFJA For more information, contact the Gender Intelligence Group: tdrezet@genderintelligence.com or 1-877-922-2462 ext. 120
On a day to mark the progress of women’s rights around the globe, Barbara and Paul discuss ‘mining the gold,’ to recognize and appreciate the differences and strengths that women bring to the workplace, and in leadership roles. The theme of this year’s International Women’s Day is “Choose to Challenge.” It’s a theme Barbara takes some issue with because it raises the age-old concept of Gender Equality, the ‘battle’ for being treated the same. But we’re not the same, according to Barbara, who coined the phrase “Great Minds Think Unalike.” She says we need to celebrate our differences and the unique skills and perspectives that both women and men bring to the table. As part of International Women’s Day, Barbara conducted a series of interviews with senior corporate leaders, to get a sense from them how Gender Intelligence is helping to shape their organizations in 2021. This show features some of the content from Barbara’s conversation with Scott Anderson, the President and CEO of Zion’s Bank. Anderson is a huge proponent of Gender Intelligence and says the process has empowered him and made him a better leader, partner, and community member. Watch the full interview with Zion’s Bank President and CEO Scott Anderson here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S6LzJst77QA Men Speaking for Women? Paul expressed some surprise that Barbara chose to interview not just women leaders, but also men on International Women’s Day. Barbara explains that we often learn the most by ‘walking in each other’s shoes,’ because it forces us to really try and understand each other. How Have We Missed the Mark? Despite a worldwide effort, we’re still not valuing women fully, according to Barbara. She describes the story of a woman executive who describes the ‘silos’ she sees, even within organizations, that prevent women networks from truly being embraced. Barbara’s concerned that the pandemic has created further isolation. Contact the Gender Intelligence Group for more information: tdrezet@genderintelligence.com or 1-877-922-2462 ext. 120
How do you measure training effectiveness when it comes to Gender Intelligence? We’ve got a tool for that! Our Online Gender Diversity Diagnostic tool allows individuals, teams, and organization to quantify their Gender Intelligence scores, and track progress over time. The tool offers organizations quantifiable data, allowing them to ‘see’ the issues, identify misalignments and discontinuities between intention and behavior, and develop solutions that work. It’s also 100% customizable for organizations. The Benefits of Diagnostic: Tangible, measurable assessment results and ease in tracking individual or team progress Improved retention resulting in savings on hiring/training Simplifies the process of identifying solutions for implementation Moves it beyond ‘quotas’ and into breakthrough results Benchmark yourself to other companies What Does the Diagnostic Tool Measure? Commitment Dignity and Respect Openness Opportunity Work-Life Flexibility Satisfaction and Commitment Diversity and Inclusiveness Gender and Ethnic Diversity in the organization How to get started to use the Gender Intelligence Assessment Tool: tdrezet@genderintelligence.com or 1-877-922-2462 ext. 120
Learning Nudges

Learning Nudges

2021-02-2319:36

Microlearning is gaining traction in the corporate training world. More and more educators and instructional designers are realizing the benefits of bite-sized learning, compared to workshops or longer form e-learning. The Gender Intelligence Group has launched its “Learning Nudges” program, delivering 3- to-5-minute micro training modules on a weekly basis, over a 6-month period. The focus is on inclusion, with specific Learning Nudges relating to these topics: Gender Racial and Cultural Religion Disability Each nudge is made up of a short scene with relatable animated characters, followed by a short video with insight and advice from Gender and Inclusion expert Barbara Annis. 2:18 – Audio example of a Learning Nudge 4:25 – Audio example of the commentary segment for a Learning Nudge Barbara explains to Paul the importance of expanding the learning program to cover every aspect of diversity. The Learning Nudges are gleaned from thorough research and through experiences shared by clients. Barbara says she’s discovered through behavioral economics the importance of the repetitive nature of ongoing Learning Nudges, to create building blocks of learning. It’s learning that can happen anywhere, anytime on mobile devices. Gender Intelligence Group started a pilot program to test Learning Nudges with 1,000 employees at Zions Bank. The organization found the ‘real-time’ learning to be extremely valuable. In 2020, U.S. companies spent more than $8 billion on mandatory harassment training. Paul and Barbara discuss how that leads to battle fatigue, and how Learning Nudges shift the paradigm in numerous ways. Barbara’s goal is to introduce Learning Nudges into the educational system, in partnership with Pearson Education. The current Learning Nudges program delivers microlearning moments weekly, over 6 months. At the end, learners earn a certification and badge as an “Inclusion Ambassador.” Website: http://www.learningnudges.com Learning Nudges Overview Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S903AM_liVE
It's a disruptive time for everyone. Organizations are concerned about the wellbeing and productivity of employees, and individuals are facing serious challenges too. Barbara and Paul reflect on the issues facing many of us, and focus on 6 important areas where using Gender Intelligence will make a big difference. They are: Distraction - The ongoing disruption and work/lifestyle changes. Women tend to worry more, especially those on the front-line including caregivers, nurses, etc. Communication – Sometimes we’re not getting across to each other in a way that is honoring for both women and men. Stress – It’s gone through the roof. Men and women de-stress differently. Women do it through connection. Men tend to do it by tuning out. A need to be heard. Juggling work/life balance. Conflicts. How to resolve them in a win/win way. Barbara and Paul also discuss the tools for eliminating challenges. It’s important to spend some time understanding the science of brain differences (review some of the concepts in Season 1, Episode 3) 7 tools to eliminate challenges Let's start appreciating each other, standing in each other shoes Take care of yourself, create space for you and others Press the pause button if you are triggered, apply SARA Shock/Anger/Rejection/Acceptance Respond with compassion Use the chunking method set aside time to be 100% present in activities Keep your work in one space, will help in work/life harmony piece Listen deeply to other perspectives and points of view
The gender intelligence conversation gets a bit more personal as Barbara Annis, author of Results At The Top, examines why it matters "everywhere else," including the home, the hospital, and in difficult conversations.    In the final episode of the Gender Intelligence mini-series, Baraba Annis talks about how gender intelligence can be the difference between life and death, as in the case of heart attacks, but also how companies have implemented the gender intelligence research to completely transform their businesses and in some cases double or triple their yearly revenue. Research on the gender differences of our bodies didn’t exist before 1990. At that time the US Health department couldn’t figure out why more women than men were dying of heart attacks, and when they looked into the cause they found that 72% of women had entirely different symptoms when they had heart attacks. They didn’t know what they didn’t know, because before 1990 the US Health department only tested men and male animals. Once they started looking they found a slew of gender differences. 80% of autoimmune diseases occur in women, Alzheimer’s is more predominant in women, so is dementia. If you want to take care of your health, particularly if you’re a woman, ask your doctor if they have any research on gender differences. Knowing these differences and being willing to push your doctor to look into the research can be a life or death situation. There are differences in the genders in how they handle difficult conversations as well. Women tend to take things personally, where they internalize conflicts, whereas men tend to externalize things. This can cause problems between men and women and create power struggles if we don’t understand where each gender is coming from. There is equal learning for both men and women in this regard. Women tend to seek understanding, men tend to seek space and resolution, and there are a few simple things that you can do to make a conversation work between the genders. Honoring each other’s differences and avoiding the blame game is the key. Dr. Hubble Hendricks says that we go through three phases of committed relationships. The first is the romantic phase where everything is great. The second is the power struggle phase where gender differences occur. Only 7% of us enter the third spontaneous acceleration phase where people can be themselves and loved for who they are. With an understanding of gender intelligence and the science around how the genders interact, more people can reach the third phase of a committed relationship. Due to the rise of the #metoo movement, many men reported that they became uncomfortable mentoring or networking with women. Dr. Annis has created a program that has empowered men to raise their standards but also to engage other men. Gender intelligence is about men and women working and winning together. When we understand the how of it, it becomes really empowering. Home relationships are becoming much more important in the age of Covid-19. The research showed that the same themes came up in most situations where the genders are working at home. Stress has increased considerably across the board, especially for women. The challenges of communication have increased as well. Men and women deal with conflict differently, with women tending to internalize conflict and men externalizing it. As stress levels have increased, so have the incidences of conflict. Men and women are different, and by celebrating and honoring those differences we can do more together. When you feel valued and heard, your happiness goes up. The more you understand the other gender and how they communicate and operate, the happier and more productive your relationship. Several companies have implemented the research of gender intelligence and transformed their businesses in as little as 12 months. Understanding the differences in the genders in your personal life can allow you to become closer to people important to you. Learn and engage in the research and it will have a lasting positive impact on your life. Imagine if we created a world that was gender intelligent, where we valued boys and men and valued girls and women for who they were. It starts with you.
In this continued conversation on Gender Intelligence, Barbara Annis, author of Same Words Different Langauge, and CEO of Gender Intelligence Group (GIG) examines the role of gender intelligence in the workplace.  Topics include blindspots in the workplace and the need for gender intelligence to be a "business imperative."  Find out why it’s absolutely imperative that businesses understand gender intelligence if they want to create effective teams and produce extraordinary results. Learn how gender intelligence impacts the workplace as well as what blindspots we have about the opposite gender that are holding us back and how to overcome them. There is an important difference between gender equality and gender intelligence. In the course of 30 years of research and results from implementation, we are seeing major impacts on many different areas of business. An inclusive culture in a business is a major asset. When you have men and women at the table practicing gender intelligence it increases innovation and improves decision making. There is $8 billion a year spent in corporate America on diversity training, and it has no correlation to any impact whatsoever. It actually creates education apathy, whereas by applying gender intelligence training many companies have reported massive declines in incidences of harassment. The neuroscience of gender intelligence has been around since 1990 but it’s still surprising how many people do not understand or deny the evidence of gender differences. Understanding the reality of gender differences and the neuroscience involved allows us to appreciate our differences instead of ignoring or tolerating them. Just recruiting additional women into a work culture of men is futile. Women value different things and creating a gender intelligent culture is how a business can reduce turnover. In the process of studying the sustainable impact of gender intelligence, Barbara found that companies that implemented gender intelligence made more progress in a handful of years than they did in a decade and a half with diversity and inclusivity training. Bringing women into a sales call can open up a whole new avenue of understanding. Women tend to notice things that men don’t focus on which can lead to insights into what a customer wants and feels that would be otherwise missed. Women weigh options and ruminate more than men, which is often at odds with the way men think and take action quickly. Finding a balance between the two approaches leads to better results. Girls develop their prefrontal cortex earlier than boys, which is why they tend to be more risk-wise than boys the same age. Neuroscience has proven that men and women think differently. It becomes a business imperative to see both perspectives and get better results, the key is in avoiding the blind spots that prevent us from taking the next step. Women have a blindspot in the belief that men don’t care. Men do care and want women to succeed, the challenge is in the comfort level within the #metoo era. A powerful conversation occurs when men say they do care, but they don’t know what the next step is or how to express that. For men, the blind spot is the belief that women aren’t ambitious, which couldn’t be further from the truth, but you can hamper women’s ambition if the culture is lacking. If you don’t provide a means for the ambition to be fulfilled inside of your own organization, it’s going to be fulfilled elsewhere. Another big assumption on men’s part is that women are fragile. The truth is that women negotiate differently, they tend to negotiate poorly for themselves but more effectively for other people. This is often interpreted by men as a weakness or fragility of women in the workplace. Gender intelligence applies beyond the workplace, parents need to realize the sons and daughters require a different approach to parenting. One size does not fit all. It’s the same with health differences and conflict in relationships, gender differences require a better understanding of gender intelligence in order to thrive. Be curious, learn something of the other gender and then ask. Make no assumptions and be curious about new learning.
Barbara Annis, author of Results At The Top, Work With Me, and Same Words, Different Language discusses the origin of the concept of Gender Intelligence, the neuroscience behind it, and where she hopes to go with the show.   Gender intelligence is transforming the way we think about communication, relationships, and conflict between the genders by revealing the differences that make each gender unique. Learn how Barbara Annis coined the term of gender intelligence decades ago and has since made it her mission to take the idea of gender intelligence mainstream. The idea of gender intelligence came from Barbara’s struggle with the concept of gender equality. People tend to think gender equality means treating the genders the same and don’t take the differences between the genders into account. When you stand for gender intelligence, you are actually looking at the differences between men and women and how to appreciate them as competitive advantages. Women tend to solve problems in a way that’s more contextual with a focus on seeking to understand the issue. For men, they are more focused on getting the facts and taking action. When men and women work together to solve problems, we get the best of both approaches. The idea of gender intelligence is finding its way into more industries including engineering, mining, and space exploration. In neuroscience, we assume that men and women are mostly the same, but recent developments in the 1990s led us to looking more at the differences between male and female brains. The biggest blindspot in neuroscience has been the fact that the whole body of knowledge was based on testing the male brain exclusively up until that point. Autoimmune diseases and Covid-19 are examples of how men and women are affected differently by the same disease. Great minds think unalike. As companies learn to understand gender intelligence and appreciate the diversity of thought, they are producing better results. Brain scans of a resting male brain compared to a resting female brain reveal one of the fundamental differences between men and women. A woman’s resting brain state is still full of neural activity, and understanding this can help both genders understand what the other needs to destress and relax. The challenge in relationships between the genders is when we begin resisting the differences. A common myth that women share is that men don’t listen, when they in fact listen differently. Honoring the differences instead of resisting them is vital. Barbara started the podcast to make the knowledge of gender intelligence more accessible to people, and one of the big goals of the show is to test assumptions. Gender intelligence isn’t about making broad stereotypes and more about having the ability to adapt to the way people around you think and communicate. Barbara began her career as the first woman in sales at Sony and found herself taking on the predominant male paradigm and behaviour. She realized that today we don’t need to do that anymore and that the science of gender intelligence is revealing a better, more effective way. Future episodes of the podcast will be focused on gender differences and the challenges that each gender faces in the workplace, as well as tools and strategies to navigate those challenges. We’ll also explore the differences in health between the genders and what we need to do to understand what men and women need to stay healthy. Cross-gender communication and relationships is complex for all people and all generations. Gender intelligence is ultimately about providing understanding. When we understand each other, we improve our morale and our engagement, but also our effectiveness with one another.
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