The postpartum stage can be one of the hardest (and least talked about) seasons a couple will ever go through.

Your relationship changes. Your body changes. Your sex life changes.

And with all of that comes a swirl of feelings you might not have expected:

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  Resentment toward your partner

  
  


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  A crushing imbalance in the mental load

  
  


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  Feeling “touched out” 24/7

  
  


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  Nervousness (or fear) about having sex again

  
  


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  Worries about your body never feeling — or looking — the same

  
  


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  The awkward, elephant-in-the-room disconnection that can build over months

  
  

In this episode, we’re answering YOUR most personal, vulnerable questions about intimacy and connection after having kids — from being scared to get pregnant again, to changes in sensation, to finding your spark when you feel more like co-managers than romantic partners.

💛 Here’s what we’re covering:

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  Why being “cleared” for sex at 6 weeks doesn’t mean you have to be ready

  
  


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  How to break the silence when it’s been months (or longer) since you’ve been intimate

  
  


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  What to do if sex is painful after a tear or complicated delivery

  
  


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  Navigating body image, “too loose” worries, and changes in arousal triggers

  
  


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  How to reconnect when parenting has taken over every ounce of energy

  
  


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  Advice for partners who struggle to see their spouse sexually after birth

  
  


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  The most powerful way a partner can make a new mom feel truly seen, appreciated, and desired

  
  

Whether you’re weeks postpartum or years down the road, this conversation is a reminder that you’re not broken, you’re not alone, and you can find your way back to each other.

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