DiscoverSex and Psychology PodcastEpisode 277: What People Want From Relationships Today
Episode 277: What People Want From Relationships Today

Episode 277: What People Want From Relationships Today

Update: 2024-03-22


In the not too distant past, most people followed the same relationship model and settled down into monogamous marriages pretty early in life. Today, however, people are spending more and more of their adult lives single, fewer are opting to marry at all, and those who do are waiting much longer to tie the knot. In today’s show, we’re going to delve into the modern sexual landscape and look at what people really want from relationships, including their attitudes toward casual sex, monogamy, non-monogamy, and infidelity.

I am joined once again by Tina Fetner, a professor of sociology at McMaster University. She is the author of the new book Sex in Canada: The Who, Why, When, and How of Getting Down Up North.

Some of the topics we explore in this episode include:

  • How much has the marriage rate changed over time?

  • Why are adults staying single for longer periods of time?

  • If most singles want relationships, why does everyone seem to think that they don’t want them?

  • Why are young folks increasingly concerned with telling a partner that they want to be exclusive?

  • How many people in relationships are practicing monogamy vs consensual non-monogamy?

Make sure to check out Tina’s website to learn more and follow her on Instagram @tinafetner.

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Episode 277: What People Want From Relationships Today

Episode 277: What People Want From Relationships Today

Dr. Justin Lehmiller