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Usher’s “Nice & Slow”: Lessons We Took Too Literally

Usher’s “Nice & Slow”: Lessons We Took Too Literally

Update: 2025-10-29
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1998. Usher’s “Nice & Slow” taught teenage boys about charm, flirtation, and the language of desire.

In this episode, Antoinette Arrington revisits the song with a confessional lens, reflecting on how early ideas about love and intimacy have shaped men and women differently into their 40s.

This episode explores the lingering effects of youthful fantasies, emotional growth disparities, and the ways these patterns make dating and connection in adulthood both challenging and illuminating.

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Usher’s “Nice & Slow”: Lessons We Took Too Literally

Usher’s “Nice & Slow”: Lessons We Took Too Literally

Antoinette Arrington